Comments on: Helping Our Sons Get a Clue http://pursuingtitus2.com/2010/07/15/helping-our-sons-get-a-clue/ Thu, 02 Feb 2012 16:23:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mrs. Parunak http://pursuingtitus2.com/2010/07/15/helping-our-sons-get-a-clue/comment-page-1/#comment-4555 Mrs. Parunak Fri, 23 Jul 2010 10:55:36 +0000 http://pursuingtitus2.com/?p=2132#comment-4555 Paul L., Thanks for your encouragement. It's a pleasure to "meet" you. Great point on "cake and icing." You hit the nail on the head. Paul L.,

Thanks for your encouragement. It’s a pleasure to “meet” you. Great point on “cake and icing.” You hit the nail on the head.

]]> By: Paul L http://pursuingtitus2.com/2010/07/15/helping-our-sons-get-a-clue/comment-page-1/#comment-4544 Paul L Fri, 23 Jul 2010 06:02:20 +0000 http://pursuingtitus2.com/?p=2132#comment-4544 Howdy! I'm a young man of 17 and have really enjoyed your blog! I thought I'd comment on this one since It's it's something I deal with, though not like I used to. From past experiences, I can attest to how degrading porn is. You just feel bad for looking at it, but it's all you can think about. I think it's one of satans most potent weapons against men. I'd assume that as with most young men, I have to to constantly guard my eyes, on the internet and in the mall (the latter place I don't go to very often) because it seems that most of the women there have the "if you've got it, flaunt it" mentality. During this last year the Lord has been working on my heart, and Is working on me so that I can be a worthy husband of the woman He choses for me. I have two Godly parents who have exposed me to great material from Vision forum and the like. That's all it took, and then I was off! I Love listening to sermons, especially ones that have to do with preparing to be a Godly man and husband. The Lord has given me a desire to be married, as well as a desire for a Godly woman. Frankly, I don't find ladies who feel they need to show themselves off appalling. I mean, if that's what they think it's going to take to get a guy to notice them, then they probably don't have much on the inside (Character). We (My family and I) go to a rather small home group where skirts and modest, form concealing clothing are celebrated. I think Dresses and skirts are most lovely on a lady, and I much prefer them to tight pants. I still think things like jeans and shorts are fine on women, just not really short shorts, and not tight pants. So, more to the point. As pertains to this blog post. I don't really agree with how you describe the woman who's in ankle dresses, and is "black lace and flirty aggression" in the bedroom. The Bible says that women are to be meek and quiet it spirit. And that doesn't exclude the time in the bedroom. Now I'm not an expert, I'm not even married, but I can say, what I would expect (which may be totally wrong) is a wife, who even in bed is still lady like, though if a different way. The Man offeres himself to the woman, and she opens herself to him. Aggression implies being the initiator, or the head. The point of Black lace as I recall, was so that women in the old days could show off they're legs with out getting arrested. Now I can't really see a to the ankle dress wearing lady of God wearing black fishnet tights. I think the best way to train up a young man to be sexually pure up until and past marriage (they're still pure after, as long as it's only with they're wife) is not to make sex out to be some horrible thing that just must happen to bring about the next generation, but rather as a glorious thing that the Lord has given to two people who enter into a marriage covenant with God and one another. However, teach them that you don't get married because so that you can get into bed with them, rather that sex is just the icing on the cake. If all you have is icing, then the cake might be good for a few bites, but have you ever just had a buch of mouthfuls of icing? It's nasty after just a few. But if you married the person for who they are, and for how you can serve them, then Gods gift of sex is a blessed thing. After all, he invented it, so he probably know's what makes is satisfying. And that's what ought to be conveyed to our young men, and young women as well. I home I didn't misunderstand you, please correct me if I did! Thanks for such wonderful posts! I really enjoy them. Paul Howdy!
I’m a young man of 17 and have really enjoyed your blog! I thought I’d comment on this one since It’s it’s something I deal with, though not like I used to. From past experiences, I can attest to how degrading porn is. You just feel bad for looking at it, but it’s all you can think about. I think it’s one of satans most potent weapons against men. I’d assume that as with most young men, I have to to constantly guard my eyes, on the internet and in the mall (the latter place I don’t go to very often) because it seems that most of the women there have the “if you’ve got it, flaunt it” mentality.
During this last year the Lord has been working on my heart, and Is working on me so that I can be a worthy husband of the woman He choses for me. I have two Godly parents who have exposed me to great material from Vision forum and the like. That’s all it took, and then I was off! I Love listening to sermons, especially ones that have to do with preparing to be a Godly man and husband.
The Lord has given me a desire to be married, as well as a desire for a Godly woman. Frankly, I don’t find ladies who feel they need to show themselves off appalling. I mean, if that’s what they think it’s going to take to get a guy to notice them, then they probably don’t have much on the inside (Character). We (My family and I) go to a rather small home group where skirts and modest, form concealing clothing are celebrated. I think Dresses and skirts are most lovely on a lady, and I much prefer them to tight pants. I still think things like jeans and shorts are fine on women, just not really short shorts, and not tight pants.
So, more to the point. As pertains to this blog post. I don’t really agree with how you describe the woman who’s in ankle dresses, and is “black lace and flirty aggression” in the bedroom. The Bible says that women are to be meek and quiet it spirit. And that doesn’t exclude the time in the bedroom.
Now I’m not an expert, I’m not even married, but I can say, what I would expect (which may be totally wrong) is a wife, who even in bed is still lady like, though if a different way. The Man offeres himself to the woman, and she opens herself to him. Aggression implies being the initiator, or the head. The point of Black lace as I recall, was so that women in the old days could show off they’re legs with out getting arrested. Now I can’t really see a to the ankle dress wearing lady of God wearing black fishnet tights.
I think the best way to train up a young man to be sexually pure up until and past marriage (they’re still pure after, as long as it’s only with they’re wife) is not to make sex out to be some horrible thing that just must happen to bring about the next generation, but rather as a glorious thing that the Lord has given to two people who enter into a marriage covenant with God and one another. However, teach them that you don’t get married because so that you can get into bed with them, rather that sex is just the icing on the cake. If all you have is icing, then the cake might be good for a few bites, but have you ever just had a buch of mouthfuls of icing? It’s nasty after just a few. But if you married the person for who they are, and for how you can serve them, then Gods gift of sex is a blessed thing. After all, he invented it, so he probably know’s what makes is satisfying. And that’s what ought to be conveyed to our young men, and young women as well.
I home I didn’t misunderstand you, please correct me if I did!
Thanks for such wonderful posts! I really enjoy them.
Paul

]]> By: Mrs. Santos http://pursuingtitus2.com/2010/07/15/helping-our-sons-get-a-clue/comment-page-1/#comment-4468 Mrs. Santos Wed, 21 Jul 2010 21:45:53 +0000 http://pursuingtitus2.com/?p=2132#comment-4468 Thank you for this post. I have really benefitted from the honest and varied comments. I have a six year old son and wonder about training and preparing him constantly. Thank you for this post. I have really benefitted from the honest and varied comments. I have a six year old son and wonder about training and preparing him constantly.

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