Here’s a great post from Kelly at Generation Cedar:
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Haha Chelsey reposted this too and I gave an “agree rant” on her blog in the form of a comment. Love Generation Cedar.
I’m torn on this issue. While I do not want my daughter to have a worldly upbringing and afraid of hard work, I’m aware that it is all too common to take advantage of the oldest daughter in this way. If the Mom of the big family is lazy, it can really negatively affect the oldest daughter. (Not that I think that the blog referred to is guilty of that). I am always trying to watch for signs of oldest-daughter-burnout from my daughter. She’s a high achiever and wants to please everyone. Occasionally, I have to step in and make sure she has enough rest and that her needs are being cared for. If she suffers for being a Christian, that is fine from my perspective. But I do not see a proper application of those verses on suffering to be born into a home that has saddled her with too much responsibility. In other words, I do not want my decisions that I have made to be the cause of her “suffering”. I can’t imagine that is what God had intended when he mentioned suffering as Christian.
On the other hand, all of the children, not just the daughters, should be equal partakers of a smooth running home. And yes, it takes hard work to run a home. It takes hard work to be a mom. I’m sure the writer of the blog (above) has a good balance on this issue, but not everyone does.
I recently made mention to a lady about my children, if I ever having any, helping out with the farm and garden work. She replied, “That a pipe-line dream.” I do not think it is a dream. Children should be taught to work.
Jena, I love the balance in your comment. Teaching a child to work hard and take responsibility is a great lesson, but I agree there needs to be wisdom in deciding what level of responsibility is appropriate to a child’s age and role in the family—which doesn’t always come naturally in a large family with many needs.
Dear Mrs P,what a different concept working because we are commanded to. My eldest is a boy but I make him work as hard as his sister when its childcare, we don’t live in that era of 20-30 years ago I think most people like Kelly etc know that too and we’ve all become wiser.From Linda